Aloha, Have you noticed there is an ebb and flow to life? To life in general, to your moods, to your relationship with grief, your ongoing connections with loved ones who are no longer here? That's normal! When you're on the wave, feeling the groove and things seem to be "clicking" it feels SO good! … Continue reading Ebb and Flow
Aloha, Losing a child brings a grief and pain unlike any other. It decimates you, your family, your work, your life as you know it. Whether you want it to or not it, re-calibrates everything in your life both externally and internally. With this upheaval surrounding you it's easy and natural to feel lost, untethered … Continue reading Can You Marvel?
Aloha, The first birthday, the first round of holidays, the first anniversary of a death date. Those are all the worst right? Not necessarily. I'd like to hear what others have experienced, but both from my personal life and the parents I've worked with the second year is actually harder. I believe this to be … Continue reading When Round Two is Worst than the First
Aloha, Thirteen years ago tomorrow I held Alison in my arms as she took her last breaths. I of course remember much of the day and certain details, however I no longer remember it all like it was yesterday, and some days I wish I could remember it that vividly. In those early years I … Continue reading Thirteen Years Later
Aloha, Being an observer is a good thing. Sitting on the sidelines observing your life go by is not. After my life was turned upside down and inside out I had to get my bearings, my feet back under me and I did it from the sidelines. And that's okay. There are times when I … Continue reading Sitting on the Sidelines?
Aloha, Guilt. It's a common feeling for everyone, and even more so when you've lost a dear loved one. It's easy to review your time with him/her and second guess decisions, words, missed moments. The list goes on....And guilt can paralyze you, leaving you stuck and feeling trapped in your thoughts of having done something … Continue reading Ugh! Guilt…
Aloha, You can be going along in your daily life, working through your grief and sadness as it comes up. For the most part life is beginning to feel like normal life. And then it happens, something triggers you. Maybe it's a random comment or something you see or maybe it's just an overwhelming wave … Continue reading Embrace the Setback
Happy Aloha Friday, Are you feeling the exhaustion I've been talking about the last couple of days? This is it! Take time this weekend for REST and self care. And maybe you aren't feeling tired, overwhelmed, or like you really need a rest. Well, do yourself a favor and do it anyway 🙂 Why? Let's … Continue reading Where’s Your Gas Tank?
Aloha, Yesterday's message was all about acknowledging how hard and let's face it, sometimes shitty, working through grief can be. And acknowledging that reality doesn't diminish how very necessary the work is. We're left with the question of how do we make it through the arduous, draining, and what can feel endless work to somehow … Continue reading Hope and Strength