Being an observer is a good thing. Sitting on the sidelines observing your life go by is not. After my life was turned upside down and inside out I had to get my bearings, my feet back under me and I did it from the sidelines. And that’s okay. There are times when I think it makes all the sense in the world to take yourself out of the action to re-build, re-calibrate, re-whatever else you need to do to be healthy and whole hearted.
But don’t get too comfortable on the sidelines, don’t let that become your default. Take the risk to feel again. yes, chances are good you’ll feel pain again. And now you have the benefit of knowing you’ll survive. Experience life, engage in life, allow life and people in.
Peace and aloha,