This will be a short one today, basically I’m asking for your help. There are so many people who want to help grieving parents. The problem often is they are paralyzed with fear they will do or say the wrong thing so instead they do nothing. And I know I don’t need to tell you, this is one of the most hurtful things people can do…appear to be ignoring your child’s life and your present pain. Let’s do what we can to change this!
I want to compile a list of things that loved ones can do to support bereaved parents, in the immediate aftermath of losing a child, in the first year, and beyond. Sure I can come up with what helped me, but I want to reflect a collective of parents who will no doubt have a variety of ways, some of which I wouldn’t think of, they’ve either been helped or would have liked to have been helped. Conversely, if there are things you found to be egregiously hurtful please include those as well.
Simply reply to this email. When you share assume I’ll keep your name confidential and if you’re okay with me quoting you and giving you credit please let me know that, because I’m always happy to give credit where credit is due 🙂
Peace and aloha,