Aloha, We've all experienced some pretty incredible, heartbreaking pain. We've gone through heavy stuff. And hopefully are coming out of it stronger, wiser, and more whole hearted. Inevitably when going through tough times we ask, "Why me?" "Why did this happen?" "Did I really deserve yet another burden?" "Why can't I catch a break?"...the … Continue reading Don’t Tell Yourself this Lie
Month: October 2017
Grappling with Owned Guilt
Aloha, Okay, so yesterday I talked about the more universal guilt we 'borrow'. This is the guilt we bereaved parents tend to adopt simply because our child died and we could've, should've been able to do something to stop it. Today I'm talking about the guilt we 'own'. This is the guilt you carry for … Continue reading Grappling with Owned Guilt
Could’ve, Should’ve and Guilt.
Aloha, Your role as a parent. Probably the biggest responsibility you'll take on in your lifetime. And one of the most complex. When children are infants, their lives literally depend on you. As they grow, your job slowly shifts from life protector to instructor, role model, nurturer, cheerleader, the list goes on. So it's easy … Continue reading Could’ve, Should’ve and Guilt.
Is Happiness an Option?
Aloha, I want to start by acknowledging losing a child is the MOST painful thing I've ever gone through (and I've been through plenty of stuff). The first couple of years were a blur of simply putting one foot in front of the other to get through the day. But somewhere in the years between … Continue reading Is Happiness an Option?
It’s Worth the Work
Aloha, While I would love for my dear sweet daughter Alison to still be with me on earth, I am happier now than I have ever been. I have tools to easily handle the trials of every day life, and frankly those trials don't ruffle me much. I don't sweat the small stuff. I've known … Continue reading It’s Worth the Work
