If you had it all your way what would your life look like? On a typical Tuesday what time would you wake up or maybe the more intriguing question…where are you waking up? Do you work? If so, what are doing and where are you doing it? How do you feel? These are the types of questions I asked myself to arrive at the conclusion I should be living on a tropical island running my own thing.
I totally get that selling virtually everything and moving thousands of miles to start something new isn’t for everyone. It is after all a bit drastic…Which could mean the changes most people need to make to create their more full life can be simpler.
Simpler, but probably not easier. Here’s the thing, I’d made a lot of decisions, both conscious and unconscious, that defined the life I was now working to re-create. There were reasons each of those decisions had been made. In order to do something different, I’d need to not only make different decisions, but also act on them.
When you look at your life today and the life you dreamed up when you have it all your way – where are the differences? What changes will you need to make? What are the barriers? In my experience, there are both internal and external barriers.
The external barriers are the things like a partner who doesn’t want to live in the African safari with you, -$20 in your bank account, three more years of schooling before obtaining the certification you need to become the professional you want to be.
The internal barriers can seem like the easier ones, but in reality are the toughest because they mean seismic shifts in the way you approach life, perceive yourself, situations, and others. These are the things you have to dig a little deeper for – the reasons why you haven’t already created your dream life. For me the internal barriers were thoughts along the lines of, “This is crazy…my Dad will never approve.” Or, “I’ve finally checked off all the boxes of what I thought being successful was, why would I change the score card now?”
Making a decision to live your fullest life is one of the scariest and most rewarding things you can do. I’d love to hear what you’ve come up with. Shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and fill me in!
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This is the twentieth installment in a series of articles based on, “Good Grief – Embracing Life and Giving Good Support” a talk I gave on May 22, 2019. You can get caught up by starting with the introductory article here.