Let’s face it – the holidays are not always “the most wonderful time of the year”. They can be stressful for everyone. We’ve got societal, family, and our own unmet expectations we’re balancing.
On top of all of that, even though it’s been almost 20 years since my daughter Alison died, I still also carry the weight of her not being present during these significant family times. So through the lens of my experience here are things I try to address and do to make the holidays better:
Walking down an alley I couldn’t help but peer into a well lit open garage full with 4 race cars. I’m sure they’re beautiful specimens of engineering – if you’re a gear head (which I’m not 😂).
But, you know what I AM into? You living out our your life full of pleasure and purpose – fulfilling your dreams.
And your dreams are a lot like those racecars. They can sit parked looking pretty in the garage of your heart and soul, not doing what they’re built to do OR….
They can be taken out for a spin.
Naomi, a dear friend of mine was making a decent living washing windows – she was great at what she did and people loved her heart wherever she showed up. That’s all to say, she was doing well in business, so much so, she was at a crossroads. Did she continue on as an employeeContinue reading “Washing Windows or Baking”
Relaxing on my back patio one lazy hot July afternoon my text alert pinged, “That’s it, I’m outta here!” read the message from Ed, my close friend and colleague. Immediate jealousy coursed through me. Because it was from Ed, it carried a context. We’d encouraged each other’s fantasies around the notion of leaving our careersContinue reading “The Text that Changed it All”
The sense of connection has been on my mind a lot recently. More particularly authentic deep connection where you feel truly seen and accepted in your entirety – the good and the messy.
It’s a tricky thing, because it’s in the hard times we feel our most messy, and also need connection the most. The tendency can be to shy away until we feel more presentable and put together AND the truest sense of connection that brings nurturing, healing, and solace comes when we can be in the messy and feel the being not alone in it.