Be Right Back

There are times when the past comes careening into your present and it isn't always when it's most convenient. It is important to live in the moment and be present for all the things going on in daily life. And in that, even though your loved one's life is in the past, your pain, grief … Continue reading Be Right Back

Forgiveness

The last few days may have brought up things you regret. Now you get to look at the things holding you back from living in the moment and enjoying life. We’ve spent the last few weeks honoring your past and all its complexity.  With this exercise we’re shifting into being present.  Part of being present … Continue reading Forgiveness

Writing a Letter

As we delve further into honoring your past, this week's letter writing will create an opportunity for you to connect your truest self with your loss and the memories you carry. The exercise is about being honest with yourself and your loss. You have permission to explore all of your emotions, feelings, and memories. Doing … Continue reading Writing a Letter

Coping with Tragedy

Coping with loss is a complex experience. Oftentimes we call on coping mechanisms we've used in the past and when those don't always work we search for new, more effective ones. Through this exercise you'll see and begin to understand the ways you've coped or not coped with your loss.  You'll also evaluate which have … Continue reading Coping with Tragedy

tellling your story

Telling Your Story

We as a society in general struggle with the topic of grief.  People are fearful. Those who are grieving are afraid they will drive others away with their own grief, and those who want to be supportive are afraid they will say the wrong thing to those who are grieving. But telling your story is important. … Continue reading Telling Your Story

Create a Seat for Memories, Feelings, and Honoring

When someone significant in your life is no longer here to celebrate the holidays, it’s tempting to shove thoughts and preparations surrounding celebrations to the back, with perhaps the unspoken hope they’ll quietly slip away without your attention.  Unfortunately, whether or not you ignore the holiday festivities, the feelings remain.  Every year on my deceased … Continue reading Create a Seat for Memories, Feelings, and Honoring

Be Gentle

So far most of my posts have encouraged delving deep into the pain and loss. I’ve outlined feelings the feels, avoiding the avoiding, and embracing the ugly cry.   Doing those things often feel brutal and daunting, leaving you exhausted and spent. Grieving is hard and lonely work. It’s the type of work that goes unseen … Continue reading Be Gentle