When I knew loss wasn’t going to define me and I’d started asking the question what would define my life, it felt daunting. Not only was there pressure to fill a blank slate, but I also feared completely walking away from all that had brought me to this present place. I didn’t want to be … Continue reading Honoring the Past
Okay, here is where I start to get excited about grief. Yes, I said excited :). Over the last two weeks I’ve written about the first couple years after loss, the time I call The Haze and then a transition time which comes from a Light bulb Moment(s) and Sitting with Grief. Fully living in … Continue reading What Defines Me?
After grief’s sneak attack on New Year’s Eve I knew something needed to change. Grief and I weren’t completely done with each other, it wasn’t time to break up but we did need to redefine our roles. I gave it a seat next to me. From this new dynamic I saw grief didn’t define me. … Continue reading Sitting with Grief
So far most of my posts have encouraged delving deep into the pain and loss. I’ve outlined feelings the feels, avoiding the avoiding, and embracing the ugly cry. Doing those things often feel brutal and daunting, leaving you exhausted and spent. Grieving is hard and lonely work. It’s the type of work that goes unseen … Continue reading Be Gentle
Waking up one Saturday I had another one of those mornings of feeling overwhelmed with the enormity of my pain and tired of carrying around my story of loss. I knew emptying my kitchen of food wasn’t going to work, so this time I hopped in my car. My destination? Anywhere away from my loss, … Continue reading Embracing the Ugly Cry